When it comes to moral discussion, how to manipulate people may seem unethical for many of us – and for a good reason, since you are actually manipulating other people’s thoughts, feelings and emotions in your own interest. However, manipulation does not necessarily have to be a bad thing: at least not for you!
You can get plenty of emotional and financial benefits if you know how to play your cards right and how to make other people do whatever you want them to do – the key is to do it in such a manner that they do not realize they are being manipulated, until it is too late. That being said, here is an overview of some of the best manipulation techniques that you can use:
1. The Fear-And-Relief Technique
This is actually a well-researched and documented manipulation technique that you can use in your best interest. In a nutshell, the fear-and-relief technique involves playing a bit with the other one’s emotions, and while it is true that this technique can cause a great deal of stress and anxiety, it is extremely efficient.
Whenever you see that the one you are trying to manipulate is about to give up, that is when you help them relieve the stress and let off all the steam: you are basically trying to give that person sudden mood swings that will leave him or her completely disarmed. When that happens, the person in question is much more likely to do whatever you need them to, and as evil as that may sound, it truly works!
2. Learn To Read People’s Body Language
Did you know that people express themselves more through their body language, than through actual words? If you are having a hard time “deciphering” a person, then all you have to do is to pay attention to their body language, and reading it can really be considered an art. In order to be able to fully and effortlessly manipulate somebody, you must figure out that person’s psychological and emotional makeup, and you cannot do that without taking their body language into account. People can lie and twist their words very easily, but concealing the signs your body is trying to send is a lot more difficult.
Also, make sure to keep in mind that most people are susceptible to emotional responses: if the person you are trying to manipulate is a particularly emotional one, then you will have to play with their emotions – yet again!
3. You Can Never Go Wrong With The “Guilty Approach”
This is yet another evil but very efficient way to manipulate somebody – never underestimate the power of making somebody feel really guilty about something. When a person feels guilty about something, he or she will try to compensate for it one way or another: when that happens, you can easily suggest them an idea. This is when you are slowly planting your own desires into their subconscious mind, and just wait for them to go with the flow. This tactic works best with those who are already prone to feeling guilty, like friends or relatives who have let you down in the past, or who betrayed your trust.
4. Play The Victim Card!
This manipulation technique actually goes hand in hand with the technique mentioned about, and you should consider combining the two for the best results. Be careful, though, as playing the victim card can sometimes be a double edged sword and it can work against you, if you overdo it. Use it sparingly, every now and then.
5. Use Your Looks In Your Best Interest
Whether we like it or not, the human nature is quite shallow to a certain extent – we are naturally drawn to charismatic people, and that is a fact. If you are a good-looking individual, then you can make the best of it and manipulate other people. Life really is easier for beautiful people, but your charisma alone will not get you very far: you actually need to work on it and to learn how to take it to the next level.
You must be positive, cheerful and you must also have an approachable and welcoming body language – if you manage to do so, then this can greatly benefit you both in your personal life and your professional one. Make people feel special and make sure to always be self-confident: do not overdo it, though, because at the end of the day nobody likes cocky people regardless of how charismatic they are.
6. Try The Bribery Technique
This is yet another widely used manipulation technique that always works like a charm whenever you try to make somebody do what you want. If you reward somebody, be it emotionally or materially, they will somehow feel compelled to return the favor – make sure to use that in your best interest, when they do!
All you have to do is to figure out what your boss, your significant other or your friend wants or needs and just give it to them, then make sure to suggest that you would like something in return. Be careful not to make it sound as if you are blackmailing them though, as that will certainly not end well! Try to make it look as if you are genuinely being nice to that person.
7. Prey On Their Feelings, But Make Sure To Master Your Own First
Last, but not least, the easiest way to manipulate people is to simply make them fall in love with you. When a person switches from being rational to being emotional, that is the right time to “strike” and to make them do whatever you want them to. All you have to do is to slowly guide them to feel a certain way about you. However, this technique is usually reserved for the real masters of manipulation, because if you do not master your own emotions first, you may end up being the one that gets manipulated. You need to be able to incite both fear and sympathy without falling into your own trap, and that is certainly the most difficult part!