Have you ever wondered whether somebody you just met loves you or hates you? Or perhaps it is your friend who seems like developing feelings towards you. Have you noticed that some people are naturally kind and exude good vibes, while others give you the side eye straight away? When that happens, it is usually very easy to tell if the person likes you or wants you gone, but it often happens that things are not so obvious. Sometimes people can have positive feelings towards you, but they are too shy to tell you they like you.
Fortunately, there are some small details that usually give people’s thoughts away, even if they are trying really hard to conceal how they really feel about you: all you have to do is to pay attention to these signs and to read them correctly. Here are some of the most notable signs that can help you figure out if people love you or hate you:
1. Pay Attention To The Tone Of Their Voice
You will be amazed to see that you can tell a lot more about a person (and about the way they feel towards you) by simply paying attention to the tone of their voice, than to the things they are actually saying. This does not mean that you have to ignore what they are saying – it just means that you need to focus on the “whole package”.
A person’s voice tone can make or break them, and it can easily give away their hidden intentions. The tone of somebody’s voice can be a very good indicator of somebody’s feelings, and while it would be very easy for people to lie to one another, it is a lot more difficult to conceal their true intentions in the tone of their voices. For instance, you can easily tell if somebody hates you or if they feel bored if they use a flat tone. On the other hand, vocal inflections (as opposed to speaking in a monotone) have the opposite effect, and it means that the other one really keeps on the conversation.
2. Do Not Ignore Their Actions
Actions truly do speak louder than words, and all you have to do to figure out if somebody loves you or hates you is to pay attention to their actions. For instance, if you want to know whether the man you are seeing is interested in you, then you will need to pay attention to the way he acts other people: if he is cold and distant, then the chances are that he finds you really obnoxious. However, if he tries to signal to the other men around that you are off limits, then that is an obvious sign that he digs you – same applies to women!
It is not uncommon for introverts to express themselves through actions and body language, as opposed to words. Just pay attention to them, and you will quickly be able to tell whether your presence is desired or not.
3. Facial Expressions Never Lie
People with extremely expressive faces cannot lie, even if they tried to. Have you noticed that some people have that “sweet” and welcoming look in their eyes when you look at them, while others try to push you away only by looking at you? It is said that the eyes are the mirror of the soul, and they are a pretty good indicator of whether a person loves you or hates you.
Besides this, there are several other less obvious facial expressions that you should look for. For example, the crinkling of the nose is commonly associated with a feeling of disgust, and if somebody does that around you, then that can only mean one thing! Besides this, people who roll their eyes while speaking certainly do not fancy your presence, either.
Keeping an eye on these facial expressions can really come in handy if you are trying to figure out somebody’s intentions but, at the same time, it is important to remember that people may have a hard time expressing themselves: for example, if somebody avoids eye contact, that does not necessarily mean they dislike you, it can also mean that they are very shy and introverted. It is up to you to identify these things.
4. The Body Language
The body language is by far the best indicator, and you can easily tell if a person loves you or would rather have you gone by simply looking at their hand gestures. For example, it is known that when people cross their arms over their chest, they are subconsciously suggesting that they are not approachable or available, and they are trying to keep you at a safe distance. It is particularly important to pay attention to this simple gesture when you are out on a date, or when you have a business meeting with your boss – it may reveal more than you hoped for!
Besides this, somebody’s general body posture and position can also tell you a lot about how they feel towards you. If the person is consistently turning around from you, then that means your presence is not desired or tolerated. However, if a person faces you directly and looks right at you, then that means you have managed to draw their attention and they are actually interested, either in you or in what you have to say.
5. Evaluate Your Conversation
People will rarely tell you straight to your face that they love you or hate you, this is why it is usually up to you to figure out which one is it. If you are talking to somebody and that person actually listens to what you have to say, asks you questions and remembers even the smallest details that you may consider irrelevant, then you certainly mean something to that person. However, if you are being constantly interrupted and the other person acts as if he is not mentally there, then that can only mean one thing – you do not interest him and you are only wasting your time.
To sum it all up, these are some of the most important aspects to consider if you want to tell if somebody loves you or hate you. Reading the body language or listening to their vocal inflections is by no means an exact science – however, it can help you make a general idea about the other one’s feelings towards you. It can be tough when someone close to you hates you , but it is a pure happiness when you find out that someone loves you. Pay attention to signs and you will know the answer.