Make the Most of Mutuals
There’s no harm in asking your existing friends to introduce you to someone new. They may know someone who has more in common with you than you’d expected, leading to the ideal friendship.
However, there are also a number of psychological techniques that may help you influence your peers into becoming your new BFF.
Keep reading to discover the top ten psychological tips to take into account when trying to get acquainted with someone new.
Take Benjamin Franklin’s Advice
Benjamin Franklin once said ‘He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged.’
Legend has it, Franklin wanted to befriend a man who didn’t like him. He asked the man to lend him a book and showed his appreciation when the man agreed. Due to Franklin’s positivity, the man changed his attitude and the two became friends.
Try politely asking someone for a favor. They may give you the benefit of the doubt, potentially leading to a great friendship.
Take Names into Account
Using someone’s name in a conversation can give them feelings of validation regarding their identity, subsequently allowing them to view you in a positive light for making them feel that way.
Once you’ve learned the person’s name, try using it from time to time and see how they respond.
Mirror Those You Admire
By mirroring the behavior of someone you’d like to become friends with, you may be influencing them to act more favorably towards you. They’ll subconsciously notice the similarities to themselves, treating you as they feel they (or someone like them) should be treated. Similarly to using the person’s name, the fact you’ve mirrored their behavior may also be linked to their feelings of validation, boosting their self esteem.