ROMANTIC AND CHARMING – BUT WITH A CATCH
Many of the narcissists come across as attractive and alluring, especially at the initial stages of developing a relationship when they are making attempts to woo and win your heart. They work like a professional salesperson. They will use tactics like charisma to capture your attention, and compliments to make you feel you are special. They will also use different forms of seduction to sweep you off your feet like always get, dinners, flirting, sex, etc. Narcissists are also very persuasive people and use this technique to make people give them all that they want.
LACKS RELIABILITY AND DOES NOT FOLLOW THROUGH
Measuring a person’s actions against his or her words is another sure way to find a pathological narcissist. This will range from breaking appointments regularly, and falling through habitually on agreements and appointments, and lying constantly to cover up the truth. Lack of reliability can also be emotional. It is about the inability to be there for you when you need them. If you see such a pattern of inconsistency in their behavior that veers between what they actually say and what they follow through with action, you may be dating a narcissist.
Being self-absorbed and self-centered, some of the narcissists expect to get instant gratification for the fulfillment of their needs. This will range from activities like forcing you to do things their way (interpersonal, social and/or sexual), and insisting on answering their calls and texts immediately. A quick and easy way to see if your partner is a narcissist or not is by saying “no” gently and letting them know that you will think about it first and watch how they react to it. If you see them persuading you with a lot of pressure and simply would not let up but instead show signs of anger, irritation (like a petulant child), impatience, etc., take note of it.