Dating a Narcissist - What To Do - Page 3 of 3 - Psychologium

BREAKS RULES AND VIOLATES BOUNDARIES

If violating social norms and rules are what your partner wants to get away with, like disobeying certain rules of the traffic, breaking several appointments, stealing supplies from the office, chronic under tipping and always cutting the line.

In addition to this, pathological narcissists, also show a lot of wanton disregard for the feelings, thoughts, physical space, time and possessions of other people. They are always overstepping and using other people without any trace of sensitivity or consideration. Instead of showing signs of remorse, they take pride in their “Machiavellian” actions.

SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT

Preferential treatment is something that narcissists expect from other people all the time. They think people should cater to all their needs without offering a sense of consideration in return. To them, the whole world revolves around them. For example, watch how your date is treating service people like the doorman, the waiter, cab driver, support staff, etc. They will usually order them around, acting as if they are royalty. After the initial stages of dating, such people will start to exercise similar kinds of entitlement towards you.

THE MANIPULATION GAME

There are some narcissists who use their romantic partners in order to fulfill certain unrealized ambitions, meet unreasonably self-serving needs, or even cover their self-perceived flaws and inadequacies.

CONSTANTLY PUTTING OTHER PEOPLE DOWN

Most of the narcissists are constantly putting others down to disguise their insecurities, put up a fake superiority front, and boost their personal acceptability or desirability. Their negative talks will mostly target former relations that are “flawed,” “clueless” friends, “incompetent” managers and “inferior” colleagues. During the early weeks of dating, a narcissistic person, will shower you with their charm and then entice you further with compliments. However, even at this initial stage, it is easy to notice their seemingly negligible, passive aggressive comments and jokes about you like body features, character, background, attire, work, and personal priorities and even your use of time.

HERE ARE SOME TIPS TO HELP YOU CHANGE THE DYNAMICS OF THE RELATIONSHIP

REDIRECT THE FOCUS FROM HIM TO YOU

Not that it is any of your faults, but it is time to take control of your situation and take action. Do not be tempted by the idea of trying to figure him out, read articles to try to analyze him, etc. This will not help you to understand your position in this. Take the attention from him and then to you. Think about what it is that you want. When you are together what do you want from him or how do you want to be treated?

KNOW YOUR WORTH

Once you have taken a good look at yourself in the mirror, consider your self-worth. And add taxes to it! The thing is that narcissists feed off of insecure people especially people they are romantically involved with. This is because it makes them feel superior, as opposed to their partner who is always accommodating their whims because they think they don’t deserve any better.

 Also – Tell him to change. You can actually stop being a narcissist with a right psychological approach. Of course, it is a tough process, but if everything else is great, why let narcissism destroy a relationship? Hopefully, the article was helpful.





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