It is vital to establish a clear premise before you start confronting him. Some common reasons (other than sex outside marriage) may include –
- An unhappy relationship between you and your husband
- Unhealthy work environment
- Mental illness or disorder
The silliest reason can also be that he just wants to hang out with his friends. It may not particularly be of a bad nature, but something that you won’t approve of, and hence, the lying part to get away from your little nags.
- Accept the reality
If you do find out that your husband is lying to you and the reason seem to be serious, the first thing to do is to accept the reality. The faster you accept that it all happened, the better. You will only make it worse for yourself if you keep trying to convince yourself that it’s not true. Once you accept it, no matter how hard the reality seems, you can move on to make a rational decision.
- Don’t seek Revenge
This is probably the worst thing that you can do. The anger and frustration empower most women to take up this step just to let him have a taste of his own medicine. But, all this does is make things more complicated, and most importantly demean yourself by going down to his level. Once you decide to take revenge on him and accomplish that, there is really no point of him cheating on you in the first place. That just make things even, and there is really no Bad Guy in this case. All that does is give him a reason to escape out of it. It has become a common affair to take revenge on your partner by exposing him on the internet via social networking sites, but that too is a stupid thing to do. All that does is give you a sense of momentary satisfaction, and after some point of time all that will seem illogical and may even work against you.