- Keep your kids away from it
Most people use their children as leverage when things like this happen. Whatever your husband is lying to you about, he is still a father of your children. It is unwise to expose your children to such a harsh reality, and also your children will be scared for the rest of their life. To know that their father isn’t the man they look up to will most definitely affect their views on relationship and parenthood. Whatever it is, keep it between you and your husband, so that your children don’t have to suffer and forced to take sides.
- Think Practical
After finding out the harsh reality, it is of no use trying to imagine the life that you once thought you had. If you suspect that the nature of your husband lying will most probably lead to the end of your marriage, it is best if you take a practical step, instead of denying it. You can take necessary steps for the separation process and the kids custody, but keep in mind that this should be “the last resort.”
- Healthy mind
It is most vital to keep your mind healthy and positive. Even in the worse situations, positive mind, and approach can do wonders. It is also best if you think carefully before you open up about your situations to your friends/ family. They will always not have the best opinion, and that may lead to further confusion. They will have strong opinions on their own, and you may end up thinking more negatively about your situation. Also, too many opinions will leave you more confused about what to do next. This may also lead to escalating the situation as the words will most likely spread out if you start sharing.
At the end of the day, it affects your marriage and most importantly your life the most. If you let someone else decide what to do, you may regret that afterward. Keep a healthy mind and think practically of all the consequences that may result out of it.