How To Manipulate a Control Freak - Guide - Page 3 of 3
  1. Speak out

This point is arguable; most people suggest that “silent treatment” is the way to deal with a control freak, but if you’re just going to sit there silently without speaking out, you’re just giving them more reasons to complain about it. If you want to manipulate them, you have to talk (unless you’re Professor X). If someone just shouts at you for no reason and constantly find fault in you, would you just sit there and listen? If you do that, it gives them more power to talk about it because you cannot defend yourself. Be Confident and have the guts to stand up for yourself, with confidence and courage, you can easily minimize their negative effect on you. This allows you to gain more confidence and also makes them more hesitant to complain.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you will argue with them every single time. But keeping quiet too often may further deteriorate the controlling aspect. What works best is “Talk back when necessary” and other than those occasions just avoid them, like literally “walk through them” as if they were invisible to you.

  1. Always seek others help

It’s always a good idea to share with your family/friends about it. A Control freak will never understand what they make other people go through. In fact, professional psychologists have stated that Control Freaks don’t see themselves as Bad people or bad influence on others. For them, they are just trying to help others do the right thing in the right way. They see themselves as Batman and not Joker (cheeky!). This is why you need other people to support you, who can bring about a positive change and motivate you to take necessary actions.

Studies have shown that being in a controlled environment or with a control freak can often lead to depression. This is because of all the negative energy that you are fed with every day leading to deterioration of your confidence. Once you lose your focus and interest, it becomes so much easier for others to control you even more.

Having a supportive friend/colleague/family member can help you deal with a control freak more effectively. To know that they have your back will always give you more strength to deal with control freaks.

These are some simple (yet not limited to) ways that you can approach while dealing with a control freak in order to obtain the most efficient results.