- ADVANTAGE OF HOME COURT
The main purpose of manipulation is to control, and one of its most important tactics of gaining control is by taking the individual out of his or her element. Take a moment to consider where it is that the two of you go on dates, the friends you visit, the places you hang out and where it is that you live. Do they include places you love? Is it your friends you visit or his? Are your dating places your choice or his? This could be one of the techniques of manipulation which have been designed by your partner so that they can have more control. It is easier for them to control you when you are not in a place of comfort.
WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
Equal your home court advantage to 50/50. Both of you should live life for each other. The places you go for dates should be chosen by both of you. You should both be going only to those places where both of you feel equally comfortable. This is what entails an equal, and a healthy relationship.
- TUGGING AT YOUR HEARTSTRINGS
Take for example your partner came across a puppy. A non-manipulative person would take your opinion about getting the puppy, discuss things like whether or not you can afford the food and vet care, find out whether or not your landlord likes puppies and determine whether or not it is best for the both of you as well as for the puppy.
The manipulative partner will try to tug at your heartstrings. He or she will make you feel guilty for saying no. They will use tactics like “he is homeless, just look at him! are you going just to let him die alone and cold out in the streets? Where is your love?” there is a huge difference.
WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
Do not let them or anyone make you feel guilty for choosing what is best for you. If you are not in a position to pet a puppy or you just don’t like pets, it is not your responsibility to ensure their survival. You can meet most of these manipulative tactics with reasonably acceptable alternatives like taking it to the nearest adoption shelter or finding another home for it.